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Umboniso weNtetho ka-Aaron yoMlawuli weQela: Isikhokelo "sokusinda" soBuzali basehlotyeni
Njengoko ihlobo lisondela, imingeni yokukhulisa abantwana efana neemeko zosapho, ixesha lesikrini, kunye nokuxhalaba kwezemfundo ziqala ukuvela. Ukuxhasa abazali ekusingatheni le miba, i-CIEO imema uMnu. Aaron ngokufudumeleyo,FONELAUMlawuli weIzikolo zaMazwe ngaMazwe eTshayina kunye nengcali yezemfundo enamava, ukusingatha iseshoni ekhethekileyo ebukhoma: "Isikhokelo Sokusinda Sokukhulisa Abantwana Ngexesha Leeholide Zasehlotyeni."
UAaron Chavez
UMlawuli we-CIEOIzikolo zaMazwe ngaMazwe eTshayina
Ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-25 yamava kwimfundo
Idibanisa ubunkokeli bokukhonza, ukuqina kwezemfundo, kunye nophuhliso olupheleleyo ukwakha uluntu olufundisayo oluphilayo
UAaron akangomntu onamava kwimfundo yamazwe ngamazwe kuphela, kodwa ukwanguyise wabantwana abathathu nombhali wencwadi ethiImithetho esi-7 yokukhulisa abantwanaKule seshoni ebukhoma, uza kusebenzisa amatyala okwenyani kwincwadi yakhe ukuze anike abazali amaqhinga asebenzayo, asekelwe kuphando anembono yehlabathi—agubungela izihloko ezifanaiindlela zokukhulisa abantwana, ukubeka imida, unxibelelwano oluneemvakalelo, imikhwa yokufunda, kunye nokuqinisa unxibelelwano lwentsapho.
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UAaron akangomntu onamava kwimfundo yamazwe ngamazwe kuphela, kodwa ukwanguyise wabantwana abathathu nombhali wencwadi ethiImithetho esi-7 yokukhulisa abantwanaKule seshoni ebukhoma, uza kusebenzisa amatyala okwenyani kwincwadi yakhe ukuze anike abazali amaqhinga asebenzayo, asekelwe kuphando anembono yehlabathi—agubungela izihloko ezifanaiindlela zokukhulisa abantwana, ukubeka imida, unxibelelwano oluneemvakalelo, imikhwa yokufunda, kunye nokuqinisa unxibelelwano lwentsapho.
01｜Imingeni kunye noKhulo:
Ukuguqula "Iingxaki" zasehlotyeni zibe ngamathuba ophuhliso
Eqala kwezakheifilosofi yobuzali, uAaron uza kwabelana ngendlela abazali abanokuyiguqula ngayo imingeni ibe ngamathuba okukhula ngexesha lekhefu lasehlotyeni phakathi komzali nomntwana “elinobungozi obukhulu.”
"Ukukhulisa abantwana kuyinto exakileyo, engaqondakaliyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuyathobisa. Kodwa nantsi inyani: okukhona sikwenza ngcono, kokukhona abantwana bethu beya kuba bekulungele ngakumbi."
Uza kuhlola kwakhonaiindlela ezahlukeneyo zokukhulisa abantwana, kuquka:
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Igunya:
Ukulindela okuphezulu, ukuphendula okuphezulu. Abazali babeka imithetho ecacileyo ngelixa bekwaphulaphula kwaye bebahlonipha abantwana babo.
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Umlawuli olawulayo：
Ukulindela okuphezulu, ukungaphenduli kakuhle. Abazali bagxila ekuqeqesheni nasekuthobeleni, benganikeli ngqalelo ingako kwiimfuno zeemvakalelo.
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Ivumelekile:
Ukulindela okuphantsi, ukusabela okuphezulu. Abazali babeka imida embalwa kwaye banovelwano olugqithisileyo ebantwaneni babo.
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Ayibandakanyekanga:
Ulindelo oluphantsi, ukungaphenduli kakuhle. Abazali abangqongqo kwaye ababandakanyeki ngokweemvakalelo.
Uza kuphinda agubungeleindlela yokuchonga nokusabela kwi-Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)—iziganeko ezibuhlungu ebuntwaneni ezifana nogonyamelo lwasekhaya, ukuxhatshazwa, ukulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo, okanye ukwahlukana nabazali—ezinokuba nefuthe elihlala lihleli kwimpilo yengqondo yomntwana nakwimpilo-ntle yexesha elizayo.
02｜Ulawulo lweXesha lesikrini:
Ukusuka kwiNgxabano ukuya kwiMvumelwano
Kule mihla yedijithali, ixesha lokubukela isikrini libe ngumceli mngeni omkhulu kwimfundo yosapho. U-Aaron uza kwabelana"Indlela Yokulinganisela":
"Ukuzibamba akusosohlwayo—bubulumko. Kwihlabathi elinezinto ezininzi, 'kwanele' kukho amandla amakhulu."
Uza kwazisa indlela ayisebenzisa ngayo“Imbiza yeXesha lesikrini”indlela yokunceda abantwana boyise umlutha wemidlalo; xoxa ngokubaluleka kunye nokuziqhelanisa nokudala"Iindawo ezingenazo iTekhnoloji"ekhaya; kwaye ucebise"Ukulinganisela kwengqondo nomzimba nomoya"Indlela yokuxhasa ulutsha ekubalekeni ukuxinwa kakhulu ziindaba zoluntu nokubuyela kwindlela yokuphila esempilweni.
Ukwagxininisa oku:
"UMthetho woLwimi usikhumbuza ukuba amazwi ethu abumba ubuntu babantwana bethu."
Xa ubeka imithetho,sebenzisa ulwimi oluhloniphekileyo nolucacileyoendaweni yokutyholwa okanye ilebhile, ukuze abantwana bazive bethembekile emva kwemida.
03｜Ukunika amandla
Ikamva Elingaphaya Kweemviwo
Ejongene nokunyuka nokwehla kweemvakalelo zabantwana emva kweemviwo, uAaron ugxininisa oku:"Ukusombulula iingxaki zehlabathi lokwenyani koyisa amanqaku agqibeleleyo."Kwiseshoni ezayo ebukhoma, uza kwazisa iingcamango ze"Isishwankathelo sokusilela"kwaye"T""Abantwana abamile okweemilo"ukunceda abazali bacebe ukukhula komntwana wabo ngobuchule ngakumbi ehlotyeni, nto leyo enciphisa ixhala lokuba ngumzali.
04｜Ukulungiswa Komzali Nomntwana:
Uqhagamshelo luLawula ngaphezulu
"Ukuba ngumzali akungolawulo—kungonxibelelwano."
Kule hlobo, njengoko imisebenzi yentsapho iphazamiseka, u-Aaron uza kwabelana ngendlela yokwakha ngokutsha unxibelelwano phakathi komzali nomntwana""Isingqisho sobuzali" 3:2:1kwaye i"5-Ukulungiswa kwemizuzu.Uza kwazisa kwakhona"Ithempleyithi yoXolo"kwaye i"Umthetho Wokumodela"ukunceda abantwana baphuhlise uxanduva kunye nolawulo lweemvakalelo.
"Inkqubela phambili, hayi ukugqibelela."
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"Awukho ngasemva. Uba semva."
——Aaron Chavez, "Imithetho esi-7 yokukhulisa abantwana"
Ukukhulisa abantwana akupheleli nje ekusombululeni iingxaki — kuxhomekekekukhula kunyeJoyina nathi kule seshoni ebukhoma ukuze uzise uthando namandla kuhambo lwakho lwasehlotyeni.
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