Mutungamiriri weBoka Aaron anogovera gwara rekubatsirana pakurera vana munguva yezhizha

Mumazuva marefu ezhizha anopedzwa nevana vedu, maitiro edu ekurera vana anowanzoonekwa zvakanyanya. Kuziva maitiro ako ekurera vana ndiyo nhanho yekutanga yekukunda matambudziko.

Psychology inowanzo tsanangura nzira ina huru dzekurera vana:

Kana maitiro ekurera vana asingaenderane nenguva yezororo, zvinogona kukonzera nyonganyonga munzvimbo nhatu dzinotevera:

Tingaita sei kuti tikwanise kurarama nematambudziko ekurera vana munguva yezhizha uye tivake hukama hwakanaka nevana vedu?

Aaron anopa mhinduro yake—yakavakirwa pasainzi uye pane zvakaitika muhupenyu chaihwo.

Aaron nechikwata chehutungamiriri hwezvedzidzo cheCIS

2. Zvinotaurwa Nesainzi: Hukama Hunogona KuporaKushungurudzika Kwevana

Mubhuku rinonzi The Nomwe Laws of Parenting, Aaron anonyora kuti:

"Chinhu chakanakisisa chingaitwa nevabereki kubatsira vana vavo kuti vaporeswe ndechekuramba vakabatana mupfungwa."

Iyi haisi pfungwa inonyaradza chete—zvinotsigirwa nenyanzvi dzepfungwa.Chidzidzo cheACE (Zvakaitika Pavana Vasina Kubudirira), chakaitwa neCDC naKaiser Permanente, ndicho chakatanga kuratidza kuti matambudziko ekutanga anogona sei kuva nemigumisiro yenguva refu pakukura kwepfungwa dzemwana uye hutano hwepfungwa.

Chinonyanya kukosha ndechekuti Aaron anotiyeuchidza kuti:"Vana vanokwanisa kutsungirira zvakanyanya. Nehukama hwakanaka nenzvimbo dzakanaka, kunyangwe avo vane mamakisi eACE akakwira vanogona kubudirira."

Nemamwe mashoko,Maronda anokonzerwa muhukama anofanirawo kuporeswa kuburikidza nehukama.Mhinduro yega yega yatinopa, kumbundirana kwega kwega, nguva yega yega yekutarisana mumaziso inobatsira kuvakazve kunzwa kwavo vakachengeteka.

3. Kurera vana hakusi kwekutonga— ndezvekubatana

Sezvakataurwa naAaron:"Takaongorora kukosha kweruzivo nekudzikama, uye kuti kutevedzera njere dzemanzwiro, kuda kuziva, uye kuzvitarisira kunobatsira sei kurera vana vakasimba uye vane tsitsi."

Ngatinyatsoongorora kuti mitemo iyi ingatitungamirira seiMatambudziko matatu makuru ekurera vana munguva yezhizha.

Dambudziko 1:Masikirwo—Kubatana Here Kana Kuti Kusawirirana?

Nezhizha kunouya hondo yakajairika: nguva yekuratidzwa paTV. Aaron anotiyeuchidza kuti:

"Takaongorora mwero, kunyanya munguva yedhijitari, uye kuti tingatungamira sei vana kuti vave nehukama hwakanaka netekinoroji, nguva, uye kunyangwe ivo pachavo."

Edza kushandisa izvimisimboti mitatu:

• Mutemo weKuenzanisa
  Munyika inokurudzira zvinhu zvakanyanyisa—nguva yakawanda yekuona zviri paTV, shuga yakawanda, kukurudzira zvakawanda—kudzidzisa vana zvine mwero kunovabatsira kukudziridza kuzvidzora, kugona kugadzikana mupfungwa, uye kuziva ivo pachavo.

• Mutemo weKusachinja-chinja
  Kugara uchitevedzera mitemo kunoita kuti pave nepfungwa dzakadzikama uye kurwira simba nguva nenguva.

• Mutemo weMutauro
  Mashoko edu anova inzwi remukati memwana wedu. Panzvimbo pekuti “Sei uri pafoni yako zvakare?” edza: “Ndinoziva kuti unoda mutambo uyu—ngatitsvagewo chimwe chinhu chinonakidza chatingaita pamwe chete.”

Dambudziko rechipiri:Kunetseka Kwedzidzo

—Tinogadzirira Sei Remangwana Zvechokwadi?

Zhizha rinowanzounza kudzidziswa uye "kutya kusaririra kumashure." Aaron anotiyeuchidza kuti dzidzo yechokwadi ndeyekukudziridza kuda kuziva, kwete kutevedzera mitemo:

"Dzidzo yechokwadi inokurudzira kuda kuziva, kwete kutevedzera mitemo."

Edza kunyorera:

• Mutemo weKuenzanisa
  Kuenzana ndiyo hwaro hwehutano hwakanaka muhupenyu hwese. Munyika yakazara nekukurudziro yakawandisa, makombiyuta, kuronga zvinhu zvakawandisa, uye ruzivo rwakawandisa, vana vanoda rubatsiro kuti vagadzirise pfungwa dzavo, miviri yavo, uye mweya yavo. Kudzidzisa kuenzana uku kunovabatsira kuvaka ruzivo, kudzora kushushikana, uye kubudirira mune zvese zvehupenyu.

• Mutemo weRuzivo
  Kukurudzira rudo rwekudzidza chimwe chezvinangwa zvakakosha zvekurera vana. Dzidzo chaiyo inopfuura kungodzidza mukirasi—inosimudzira kuda kuziva, kuchinjika, uye chishuwo chekukura kwehupenyu hwese.