Imfundo ye-IB PYP
UMlawuli weQela uAaron wabelana ngesikhokelo sobudlelwane bokukhulisa abantwana ehlotyeni
Iiholide zasehlotyeni lixesha elihle lokunxulumana nabantwana—kwaye lixesha apho iingxabano zentsapho zivame ukuvela. Ukususela kwiingxaki zesikrini ukuya ekuxhalabeni kwezemfundo, ukusuka ekuvukeni ngokweemvakalelo ukuya ekuphazamisekeni konxibelelwano, abazali abaninzi baxakeke phakathi"Indlela yokuqeqesha"kwaye"ukuziva ungenamandla."
Ukujongana nale nto,I-CIS imeme u-Aaron Chavez—uMlawuli we-CIEO International Schools eTshayina kunye nombhali wencwadi ethi The 7 Laws of Parenting.
Egxile kwimingeni emithathu eqhelekileyo yokukhulisa abantwana ehlotyeni, u-Aaron unika isikhokelo esifudumeleyo nesisebenzayo esisekelwe kwisayensi namava.
UAaron Chavez
UMlawuli we-CIEO
Izikolo zaMazwe ngaMazwe eTshayina
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Ingcali yeMfundo
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Ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-25 yamava emfundo; umntu onamava okufumana isiqinisekiso sobunkokeli kwinqanaba lesithili
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Owayesakuba ngutitshala, inqununu, umphathi wesithili, kunye nomlawuli oyintloko wombutho wezemfundo eWashington State, eMelika
"Imithetho esi-7 yokukhulisa abantwana" ngu-Aaron
1. Ngaphambi kokuba uzame "ukulungisa" izinto—Okokuqala, Qonda ukuba loluphi uhloboUngumzali
Ngexesha leentsuku ezinde zasehlotyeni esizichitha nabantwana bethu, iindlela zethu zokukhulisa abantwana zihlala zibonakala ngakumbi. Ukuqaphela indlela oziphatha ngayo xa ukhulisa abantwana linyathelo lokuqala lokunqoba imingeni.
Isayikholoji ngokubanzi ichonga iindlela ezine eziphambili zokukhulisa abantwana:
• Igunya:Iimfuno Eziphezulu, Ukusabela Okuphezulu (Ukufudumala kunye neNkxaso)
• Umlawuli olawulayo:Ukusabela Okuphantsi (Ukufudumala kunye neNkxaso), Iimfuno Eziphezulu
• Ivumela:Ukusabela Okuphezulu (Ukufudumala kunye neNkxaso), Iimfuno Eziphantsi
• Ababandakanyekanga:Ukusabela Okuphantsi (Ukufudumala kunye neNkxaso), Iimfuno Eziphantsi
Ingqondo ichonga iindlela ezine eziphambili zokukhulisa abantwana. Apha, ukuphendula kubhekisa kuububele nenkxaso yeemvakalelo enikelwa ngumzali—kungekuphela nje ukusabela, kodwa ukusabela ngononophelo nangobukho.
Xa iindlela zokukhulisa abantwana zingalingani ngexesha leeholide, zinokukhokelela kwisiphithiphithi kwezi ndawo zintathu zilandelayo:
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Iingxaki ngexesha lesikrini
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Uxinzelelo lwezemfundo kunye noxinzelelo
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Ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo kunxibelelwano phakathi komzali nomntwana
Singakwazi njani ukumelana nobunzima bokukhulisa abantwana ehlotyeni size sakhe unxibelelwano oluzinzileyo nolufudumeleyo nabantwana bethu?
U-Aaron unika impendulo yakhe—esekelwe kwisayensi namava okwenyani.
U-Aaron kunye neQela leeNkokheli zezeMfundo ze-CIS
2. Oko Isayensi Isixelela Kona: Ubudlelwane BunokuphiliswaUkonzakala Kwabantwana
Kwi-The 7 Laws of Parenting, u-Aaron ubhala athi:
"Eyona nto ingcono abazali abanokuyenza ukunceda abantwana babo baphile kukuhlala benxibelelene ngokweemvakalelo."
Le ayisiyongcinga nje ethuthuzelayo—ixhaswa yi-neuroscience.Uphononongo lwe-ACE (Amava Angalunganga Obuntwana), olwenziwe yi-CDC kunye neKaiser Permanente, belulokuqala ukutyhila indlela ubunzima obusebuntwaneni obunokuba nefuthe ngayo ixesha elide ekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo yomntwana kunye nempilo yengqondo.
Okubaluleke ngakumbi, u-Aaron uyasikhumbuza:"Abantwana bayakwazi ukumelana nobunzima ngendlela emangalisayo. Ngobudlelwane obufanelekileyo kunye neendawo ezifanelekileyo, kwanabo banamanqaku aphezulu e-ACE banokuphumelela."
Ngamanye amazwi,Amanxeba abangelwa kubudlelwane nawo kufuneka aphiliswe ngobudlelwane.Impendulo nganye esiyinikayo, ukuwolana ngakunye, umzuzu ngamnye wokujonga emehlweni kunceda ekwakheni kwakhona ukuziva kwabo bekhuselekile.
3. Ukukhulisa abantwana akungolawulo— imalunga nonxibelelwano
Kwincwadi yakhe, uAaron uchazaImithetho esi-7 yokukhulisa abantwana, isakhelo esinceda ukutshintsha ubuzali ukusuka kulawulo ukuya kunxibelelwano:
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Umthetho woQhagamshelwano
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Umthetho Wokungaguquguquki
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Umthetho Wokwenza Iimodeli
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Umthetho woLwimi
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Umthetho Wokulinganisela
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Umthetho Wokulinganisela
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Umthetho woLwazi
Njengoko uAron esitsho:"Sihlolisise ukubaluleka kolwazi nokulinganisela, kunye nendlela ukubonakalisa ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo, umdla, kunye nokuzinyamekela okunceda ngayo ekukhuliseni abantwana abazinzileyo nabanovelwano."
Makhe sijonge ngokusondeleyo indlela le mithetho enokusikhokela ngayoimingeni emithathu emikhulu yokukhulisa abantwana ehlotyeni.
Umngeni 1:Izikrini—Unxibelelwano okanye Ingxabano?
Ihlobo liza nomlo oqhelekileyo: ixesha lesikrini. U-Aaron uyasikhumbuza:
"Sihlolisise ukulinganisela, ingakumbi kwixesha ledijithali, kunye nendlela yokukhokelela abantwana kulwalamano oluhle netekhnoloji, ixesha, kwanabo ngokwabo."
Zama ukusebenzisa eziimigaqo emithathu:
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Umthetho Wokulinganisela
Kwihlabathi elikhuthaza ukugqithisa—ixesha elininzi lokubukela isikrini, iswekile eninzi, ukuvuselela okungakumbi—ukufundisa abantwana ukuba balawule izinto kubanceda baphuhlise ukuzithiba, ukuqina ngokweemvakalelo, kunye nokuzazi. -
Umthetho Wokungaguquguquki
Ukungaguquguquki kunika ukhuseleko. Imithetho engaguquguqukiyo ibangela ixhala kunye nokulwa ngamandla rhoqo. -
Umthetho woLwimi
Amazwi ethu aba lilizwi langaphakathi lomntwana wethu. Endaweni yokuba “Kutheni uphinde wasebenzisa ifowuni yakho?” zama oku: “Ndiyazi ukuba uyawuthanda lo mdlalo—masifumane nento emnandi esinokuyenza kunye.”
Umngeni 2:Ixhala Lezemfundo
—Sililungiselela Njani Ngokwenene Ikamva?
Ihlobo lidla ngokuzisa ukufundiswa kunye "noloyiko lokusala ngasemva." UAaron usikhumbuza ukuba imfundo yokwenyani imalunga nokukhulisa umdla, hayi ukuthobela imithetho:
"Imfundo yokwenyani ikhuthaza umdla, hayi ukuthobela imithetho."
Zama ukufaka isicelo:
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Umthetho Wokulinganisela
Ukulinganisela sisiseko sempilo-ntle yobomi bonke. Kwihlabathi elizaliswe kukukhuthaza kakhulu, izikrini, ukucwangcisa izinto ngokugqithisileyo, kunye nolwazi oluninzi, abantwana bafuna inkxaso ukuze balungelelanise iingqondo zabo, imizimba yabo, kunye nomoya wabo. Ukufundisa olu lungelelwano kubanceda bakhe ulwazi, balawule uxinzelelo, kwaye baphumelele kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi. -
Umthetho woLwazi
Ukukhuthaza uthando lokufunda yenye yezona njongo zibalulekileyo zokuba ngumzali. Imfundo yokwenyani idlula nje igumbi lokufundela—ikhuthaza umdla, ukulungelelana, kunye nomnqweno wokukhula ubomi bonke.
Umngeni 3:Unxibelelwano oluqhawukileyo
—Sizakha Njani Kwakhona?
Ukusondelana kudla ngokukhokelela kwiingxabano zeemvakalelo. UAaron uyasikhumbuza:
"Ubukho bakho bunamandla ngaphezu kweengcebiso zakho."
Eyona nto ifunekayo apha yile:
Umthetho Wokwenza Iimodeli
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Abantwana bafunda lukhulu kwizenzo zethu kunakwiintetho zethu.
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Yonke imihla, kwindlela esiphatha ngayo abanye, esabela ngayo kuxinzelelo, eveza iimvakalelo, nasekujonganeni nokusilela—siyakha isicwangciso sobomi babantwana bethu.
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Ungutitshala onempembelelo kakhulu kumntwana wakho.
4. Ngeli Hlobo, Khetha Uthando kunye noBukho
UAron ubhala athi:
"Akufuneki ugqibelele. Kufuneka uqhubeke ubonakala—ngothando, ngokuthobeka, nangokuzimisela ukuzama kwakhona."
Kule hlobo, sisenokungayijongi yonke ibhokisi okanye singayizalisi yonke imihla ngokugqibeleleyo. Kodwa singakhetha ukwenza oku kulandelayo:
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Phendula ngokuzola rhoqo, kwaye ungaphumi rhoqo
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Misela imithetho kunye, ungagcini nje ngokuyibeka
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Buza ukuba yintoni ebaluleke ngokwenene kumntwana wakho, ungabuzi nje ukuba “Ngaba uwugqibile umsebenzi wakho wesikolo?”
"Akuko ukukhulisa umntwana ongenasiphako—kungokukhulisa umntwana opheleleyo."
Uyazama—kwaye wenza kakuhle kakhulu.
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